There’s a way marriage gets talked about that makes it sound like the peak of a love story, the moment where everything clicks into place and stays there.
And to think there are social media figures who are married preaching to young women about decentering men. Married or not, living with a man as "man and wife" or girlfriend/boyfriend is a literal nightmare. I don't know how women can do it anymore without needing to be on antidepressants; I assume most are still in their naive stage.
It amazes me how getting married is probably the most public and legally-significant thing most people will ever do, and yet people want everybody to act like it's this magical, personal thing. Try this next time a friend tells you she's getting married: ask her what the financial consequences will be. She not only won't know, she will be highly offended that you asked.
Happily-ever-after fairytale have a lot to answer for
As someone who’s always wanted to get married I can’t help but agree with you🫠. The idea of “love” marriage does make me roll my eyes because as you rightly say it is not. Marriage was never about love… even in the “olden days” with castles and pretty gowns…it was always about ownership, property, dowry, it was an investment. You can be madly in love and get married but the “marriage” the “ceremony” ain’t love at all! 🤷🏽♀️
Absolutely. Marriage will always be a property contract. The idea of "love marriage" is extremely new. Since I'm Indian American I learned the two sides, the "love marriage" as well as "arranged marriage" which really puts it all into focus. When I was younger Suze Orman spent a lot of time talking about understanding finances before marriage. She's not credible in many ways, but she was one of the few women talking that angle in the 90's/early 2000's. All marriage is enslavement so I would tell all women never enter that contract, BUT if she has no meaningful choices at the least she must study up on finances so she's not clueless going in and learns how to setup separate ER funds to protect herself.
And to think there are social media figures who are married preaching to young women about decentering men. Married or not, living with a man as "man and wife" or girlfriend/boyfriend is a literal nightmare. I don't know how women can do it anymore without needing to be on antidepressants; I assume most are still in their naive stage.
It amazes me how getting married is probably the most public and legally-significant thing most people will ever do, and yet people want everybody to act like it's this magical, personal thing. Try this next time a friend tells you she's getting married: ask her what the financial consequences will be. She not only won't know, she will be highly offended that you asked.
Happily-ever-after fairytale have a lot to answer for
As someone who’s always wanted to get married I can’t help but agree with you🫠. The idea of “love” marriage does make me roll my eyes because as you rightly say it is not. Marriage was never about love… even in the “olden days” with castles and pretty gowns…it was always about ownership, property, dowry, it was an investment. You can be madly in love and get married but the “marriage” the “ceremony” ain’t love at all! 🤷🏽♀️
Absolutely. Marriage will always be a property contract. The idea of "love marriage" is extremely new. Since I'm Indian American I learned the two sides, the "love marriage" as well as "arranged marriage" which really puts it all into focus. When I was younger Suze Orman spent a lot of time talking about understanding finances before marriage. She's not credible in many ways, but she was one of the few women talking that angle in the 90's/early 2000's. All marriage is enslavement so I would tell all women never enter that contract, BUT if she has no meaningful choices at the least she must study up on finances so she's not clueless going in and learns how to setup separate ER funds to protect herself.